God Honoring Biblical Sex in Marriage
God Honoring Biblical Sex in Marriage
I really hesitated to write this blog, but I do feel compelled by the Lord to do so. I throw no stones at anyone. Like Paul says in the New Testament, sometimes I feel like the chief of sinners. God’s kindness simply rescued me from my sin, and He continues to rescue me daily. Please know my heart behind this blog is to share God’s truth in love as it is laid out in His Word. May the kindness of God lead us all to follow Him!!!
I know I am about to step into something that is going to make me wildly unpopular and potentially even labeled a bigot. God honoring biblical sex can only take place in the context of a heterosexual relationship between one man and one woman. Before I really get going in this blog, let me start off by saying a few things.
First, many who claim to know Christ have been very unkind to the LGBTQ community. That is unacceptable and is not the purpose of this. It is the kindness of God that leads people to Him! Jesus Himself was the embodiment of Grace and Truth. We must interpret the truth of Scripture correctly, but we must also present this in a way to others that is GRACE filled.
Secondly, many who claim to know Christ have come out in favor of homosexuality. From my perspective, this has produced a ton of confusion. I would even go onto say that this confusion comes from many church leaders in our American Church culture because they have allowed themselves to be deceived. This teaching that Scripture is in support of a monogamous same sex marriage is NOT supported throughout church history.
Thirdly, please know I have met with many young men in a one to one context who are not participating in sex God's way. This includes sitting across from many who are participating masturbation, pornography, heterosexual sex outside of marriage, sexting, and also homosexuality. I love them the best way I know how and point them to the Scriptures and the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I throw no stones because I am not Jesus.
But I do try to point them to TRUTH and do this filled by God GRACE!
This is what I will attempt to do here.
Sex was ordained by God in the garden of Eden between Adam and Eve (one man and one woman). One point I would like to make is that if God was signing off on homosexual sex, wouldn't he have ordained homosexual sex at the beginning of time like He did with heterosexual sex?
God had an entire book written on sex called Song of Solomon. That entire book is about heterosexual sex. If God wanted and was okay with homosexual sex, would He not have had Song of Solomon mention it? Or would He not have had another book written on it?
1 Corinthians 6 speaks against homosexuality. Keep in mind it condemns many other things. We tend to only focus on homosexuality, but there were other things mentioned as well (things like sexual sin, idolatry, stealing, greed, drunkenness, gossiping/slandering, swindling, etc.).
Side note: I want to continue to point out how God honoring sex can only be heterosexual, but I need to stop here and make a point. All sin dishonors God! When we pursue sex outside of heterosexual marriage that dishonors God! When we bow down to any false idol that dishonors God! When we steal that dishonors God! When we are greedy that dishonors God! When we get drunk that dishonors God! When we gossip or slander or swindle that dishonors God! All sin dishonors God. We must look at the stuff in our heart. If Jesus is our Messiah, then He must be our Master! It is a lifelong pursuit to let Jesus master our hearts.
The purpose of this blog is not to throw rocks at those in the LGBTQ community. If you know me, you know I am against all sin, all idolatry. This includes sin that is in my own life. Why do I write this blog? God is against all sin, and homosexuality is indeed sin! That is why we need Jesus to save us, not just from homosexuality, but all sin, and I am so thankful for Christ's sacrifice on the cross that this rescue from all sin is even possible!
Like I said, 1 Corinthians 6 speaks against homosexuality, and so does Romans 1. Romans 1 goes so far as to say that sex between man and woman is natural, and sex between same sex is to be considered unnatural. God calls these acts shameful, and they are. And so is a bunch of other sin. And make sure you hear me over and over again in this blog, homosexuality is sin! So is looking at porn and sexting and cheating on your spouse or having sex before marriage. We are not speaking against one aspect of sexual sin. We speak against all aspects of it, but we must emphasize the homosexual part of it because too many “Christian Leaders” in our culture are not speaking in favor of it.
Sex is not something that exists over on its own little island. Sex is created by God, and it is an act that is meant to be worshipful! Sex must run through the lens of Scripture and the lens of the Gospel. Therefore, understanding the purposes of sex is so important. Let's go back and look at two of the purposes of sex I have outlined in other blogs.
Sex is worship
If I am to worship God with sex, then it is only worshipful if I am doing it His way. If I am pursuing homosexuality, I am worshiping my partner, myself, or both. I am not worshiping God!!!
Sex produces a Godly heritage
I am not at all poking fun or trying to be graphic, as much as I am just trying to be as honest as I can about what God created. I have an extension cord at my house. There is a male end and a female end. I can plug the male end into the female end. Why can I do this? They fit. The same is true of male and female sexual organs. They fit! God designed it this way. We shared how God wants sex to produce a Godly heritage. When the male sperm connects with the female egg, a life is formed. Life begins at conception. Homosexual sex cannot reproduce a life. If one of God's purposes of sex was to reproduce life (Godly heritage), then how does homosexual sex fit in His purposes? The answer is that it doesn't!
Let me be clear. I am speaking out against homosexual sex because God does (like many other sins). I am honoring heterosexual sex in the context of marriage between one man and one woman because God does (like many other acts of worship). I am not condemning homosexuals. Only Jesus is the One who has the authority to do that. If one commits their life to Jesus, then there is no condemnation. Many Christians are drawn to the homosexual lifestyle. The only way to walk away from it is to let Christ become Master and then let God and His people help you live a life of freedom from sin! One of the reasons many Christians that are drawn to that lifestyle choose that lifestyle is simply because the LGBTQ community is more loving and accepting that many "Christians" they have encountered in the church.
Here is an idea. Love people where they are at, and let God's kindness (His TRUTH and GRACE) lead them to Him (not our pointing fingers or our shame). What if the church out loved the LGBTQ community? Much could come from this. One of the things that could come from that kind of love would be for homosexuals and lesbians to be more likely to even listen to God's purpose for sex as outlined in Scripture, and they might even be more open to giving control of their lives to Christ!
Sorry for my rant. I am just trying to share from my heart.
Bottom Line -
May we honor God in the act of sex, as well as every area of our lives. May we love others with His GRACE and TRUTH. May we bow down to Him and only Him! He alone is worthy of our worship!